I have had many people ask that question. What kind of God gives that ultimatum; love me or spend eternity in hell. I bet many of you have too. The following link gives a good answer to that question that many of us get stumped on…
A real Hell that exists regardless of what anyone thinks. Hell was originally created for Satan and his angels and will one day be the permanent eternal residence of those who chose to join Satan because of their willful rejection of God.Think about that for a second.
In fact, their whole blog is pretty good and worth having a look around to see what else they write about.
I would just like to point out that this article deals with freewill, and is a pretty good argument against Calvinism is some respects.
One other thing that came to my mind was this… if God is a fair God, then would it be fair to bring someone into fellowship with Him if that person had no desire to have any kind of relationship with Him here on earth? And if the author of the article that I have linked to is right in saying, “Hell was originally created for Satan and his angels and will one day be the permanent eternal residence of those who chose to join Satan because of their willful rejection of God.” and “choose to love me as I love you, choose: to honor me, worship me, and receive my free gift of salvation, or choose to live out your eternity forever separated from all that is good”, then surely forcing to make someone live a way other than the way they choose is actually unfair, unjust and dare I say it… tyrannical which goes against anything good!
Anyway, have a read and check out their site.
A little extra:
Quotes: “All that are in Hell, choose it. Without that self-choice there could be no Hell. [C S Lewis – The Great Divorce)
Separation seems for Lewis to describe the essential idea of hell, capturing what is conveyed by the biblical imagery of torture, destruction, and privation. To be forever cut off from God’s presence, eternally unable to know God’s love and mercy, would be a torture best described by being burned ceaselessly by fire. To be totally separated from other creatures, to be wholly and increasingly self-absorbed, makes that self smaller and smaller, and ultimately will result in the person ceasing to be a self. To someone who has been wholly centered on self, having that self cease to exist would be the ultimate possible loss, a horror describable for us, Lewis says, only through images of physical destruction. The torture of separation and the terror of ceasing to exist are better seen not as punishments imposed by God, but as the natural and inevitable outcome of choices humans themselves make and attitudes they themselves develop. [source]